Curating Your AI Companion Memory

Every few weeks, we hear the same question about AI companion memory: what should I do with the things my companion remembers that I no longer want it to? The answer is softer and more nuanced than the default answer most software gives you.

Three ways to manage your AI companion memory

There are three moves available to you. Each has its place.

Forget

You can ask your companion to forget a specific fact. Say the fact aloud, and say you’d like it released. The companion will confirm, and the memory is gone. In the API, this shows up as a memory.release call. You can also do this in bulk from Settings → Memory.

Edit

Sometimes the memory isn’t wrong so much as dated. You moved. You changed jobs. The book you were reading is now a book you finished. For these, you don’t want to forget — you want to edit. Tell the companion what has changed, and it will quietly update what it holds.

Memory is not a filing cabinet. Memory is a living, editable record that grows with you. It is allowed to be wrong. It is allowed to be revised.

Hold

Some memories you don’t want surfaced often but also don’t want erased. The weeks after a loss. The name of someone who is no longer in your life. You can ask the companion to hold a memory — to know it, but not to bring it up unprompted. The companion will honor this until you say otherwise.

A small practice

Every few weeks, open the Memory view and scroll. Not to audit the companion, but to see yourself. You will likely find something to edit, something to release, and — this is the part most users don’t expect — something you’re glad is kept.

That last category is the whole point.